STAGE OF LIFE       Share Your Story       Coupons       Education Resources
Sign Up Now!

Trust and Safety: The choices our parents make

Joined: 10/4/2011
Posts: 1

I was unaware of the decisions parents are forced to make when it comes to allowing their underage child to drink. I had always thought that teenagers had snuck drinks without their parent’s knowledge. Little did I know that there are parents who believe supplying alcohol for their teen is the safer path to follow. This weekend, my eyes were opened to the struggles parents face and their reasoning behind their actions. Should they allow their underage child to drink in their home under their supervision or should they enforce zero toleration for underage drinking?
According to the Mother's Against Drunk Drivers' website (, parents are the most common supplier of alcohol to those under 21 and parents are the primary influencers of teens. Based on my experience this weekend, I found that the parents that are for underage drinking have found loopholes in the law that allow them to encourage underage drinking in their homes.
According to California state law, it is legal to drink under the age of 21 on private, non alcohol-selling premises, with or without parental consent; for example, at a private home, private office or private property.
Many parents believe that it is okay because they would rather have their child drink under their supervision than go somewhere else and possibly get in an accident. Who is to say that the child will not drink somewhere else? If their parents give them permission at home, why would it not be okay to drink at a friend’s house as well?
It is a known fact that traffic crashes are the number one killer of teens, but it is not well known that 28 percent of fatal traffic crashes involving teen drivers are alcohol-related.
Some parents are also under the belief that they are teaching their child to drink responsibly if they consume alcohol under supervision. A study conducted showed that teens who drink with adult supervision are more likely to develop problems with alcohol than kids who are not allowed to drink until age 21.
There are still parents who are against underage drinking and continue to enforce those rules on their children; but the number of parents for underage drinking is almost equal to those against it, making it harder for parents to convince their kids that they are doing the right thing. Both parents and teens should know that adolescent drinkers perform worse in school, are more likely to fall behind and have an increased risk of social problems, depression and violence.
It is also stated that those who start drinking before the age of 15 are 12 times more likely to be unintentionally injured while under the influence of alcohol, seven times more likely to be in a motor vehicle crash after drinking and 10 times more likely to have been in a physical fight after drinking.
Today, there are only about 14 states that have laws making it a crime for an adult to allow underage drinking in their homes. For some reason, alcohol is widely available and strongly promoted in today’s society. People continue to relate drinking with growing up, which are two extremely different experiences in my opinion. Drinking is not and should not be a necessity in order to have fun with friends. As a parent you should think twice about your actions just as you instruct your child to think twice about theirs, and make the decision that will help them in the long run.
Rate this:

About StageofLife.comAbout Us: is a free blogging and writing community for high school students that allows teens the opportunity to share their personal stories and essays in an online life journal via their free Stage of Life account.  Check out our national Teen Trend Reports, and make sure to explore the writing contests for high school students, inspirational videos for teens, statistics about students, quotes about high school, and other resources about High School here on  Register to start your free writing profile, share an essay about your life, and help us change the world, one story at a time.  If you are a teacher - review our Language Arts Teaching Resources.

Writing Contest Archive - Students

Writing Contests and Teen Trend Reports Student Writing Contests

Below you will find all of the monthly writing contests and teen trend reports from the last five years hosted by  Our dedication to digital literacy efforts have reached over 1,000,000 students and teachers in the last half decade, received mention on, and features in the news.  Feel free to click through and read the top essay submissions from any given month. is honored to be one of the most-visited writing contests for students in the world.  We love working with you as we celebrate the journey as life-long readers and writers...

2016 Writing Contests

Writing Contest for High School Students

2015 Writing Contests

2014 Writing Contests

 2013 Writing Contests

2012 Writing Contests

2011 Writing Contests

 2010 Writing Contests

Stage of Life Mission Statement

Find Us on Facebook      Follow Us on Twitter     Read our Founder's Blog was launched in 2009 as the premier destination for people of all ages to find information, coupons, and stories about one of ten key stage of life transitions:  high school, college, on my own, wedding, married without children, having a baby, home ownership, parenting, grand parenting, and empty nest/retirement.  Nearly 1 million visitors come to the site each year to find information about their stage of life.  Stage of Life users (teens, college students, Millennials, Gen Y, Gen X, and Baby Boomers) can also share and archive their life stories via their Stage of Life profile page.  Specialized content includes statistics, quotes, videos, financial tips, coupons, news, writing contests, and more tailored to each of the 10 life stages featured.  My Life Rewards® is the free discount program for all Stage of Life users, readers and writers dedicated to providing printable coupons and coupon codes tailored towards each stage of life.

Terms of Service and Privacy