Teen Stress: Students Answer the Question, "What Stresses You Out?"Below is a collection of the StageofLife.com essays from high school and college students as they answered the October 2010 monthly writing contest question...
"What stresses you out, and how do you cope with that stress"
Over 2,730 students visited the writing contest page during the month of October, and scores of high school and college students talked about what stresses them out each and every day via their 500 word essay. We've written a summary of our findings that share general obversations and themes from the student stress submissions. You'll find that summary further down this page.
Immediately below, however, we've featured the winning essay, our finalists and some of the other stress essays featuring real, honest and in many cases raw personal experiences from teens and college students as they speak about the stress in their lives.
Please take a few moments to read an essay or two. If you have the time, make a comment on the essays you enjoyed the most. We know the student writers will love hearing your positive input (they'll get an email notifying them if you comment on their contest entry).

Winner: What Stresses Me Out: the future
High School Finalists:
College Finalists:
Other Essays (in no particular order):
Stress Video: As with each of our writing contests, we featured an additional resource for the students to explore before (or after) they submitted the contest essay. Please watch this video about teen stress from our friends at LearntoBeHealthy.org. It walks through a stress activity and gets you thinking about what stress does to the body and coping options. If you're interested in reading and talking more about stress, we encourage you to visit www.LearntobeHealthy.org. They have resources and activies relating to teen stress and mental health.
NOTE: If you are a parent or educator, you get a 15% off discount through Stage of Life (use promo code STAGE) in the LearntobeHealthy.org store, including their annual memberships.
Last Words: We could not list all of the essays submitted, but we thank every student that participated in the conversation about teen stress and the pressures students face. To enter the current Stage of Life monthly writing contest for high school students and college students:
YORK, Pa., Nov. 22, 2010 /PRNewswire-USNewswire/ -- Today's teens feel stressed out. From school to relationships to college and beyond, high school students deal with pressure from a variety of sources. StageofLife.com, a teen blogging and writing resource, welcomed 2,733 students to its monthly blogging contest for teens to answer the prompt, "What stresses you out?"
Teens shared personal experiences ranging from a sibling's drug addiction to the day-to-day stress of dealing with homework. From the collection of these student essays, six major themes emerged on teen stress:
1. School: Students talked candidly about the pressures from homework, grades and school transitions. Teen blogger, laura310, stated, "School is the thing that most high school students dread...There's so much homework, projects, and tests due in a short amount of time and sometimes it feels like it's the end of the world."
2. College: Many students worry about college. One teen writer, coffeeinthebin, talked about making the right choices for getting into college, "Every choice I make has to be thought through...I need to think about the consequences. Getting high, or drunk some night like half the population of my school do, won't help me. I'll be tired and will fail a test the next day."
3. Romantic Relationships: Teen relationships can be a perfect recipe for stress. Youthful expectations. Untested emotional boundaries. Hormones. One student shared that this stress doesn't come from a crush on Justin Bieber, but the emotional commitment given to "people, places, activities, and ideas...which is why it stresses me out constantly!"
4. Friends and Family: Like romance, this category heavily involves interpersonal relationships, a natural cause of stress. One high school blogger pointedly observed, "Friendship stresses me out to the point that I want to rip out my hair and scream on the top of Mt. Everest. Because reality is, friendship isn't just hard. It's downright difficult."
On the family side, an essay finalist in the teen writing contest talked about her stress of losing a loved one, in this case her father, "In order to deal with the pain of his passing I turn to God and pray to him to relieve me suffering. Sometimes it works yet other times the pain remains. (The) stress of losing a loved one is like feeling the weight of the world crushing down on your shoulders and no matter what you do the weight never goes away."
5. Social Expectations/Society: People of any age, especially teens, can often become overwhelmed by what is often "expected" of them. Several writers described frustrations with "what you should look like, how you act, how much money you should make to be successful."
6. The Future: As if school, college, love, family, friends, and society weren't enough, there was a consensus amongst many of the teens that "the future" stresses them out. One of Stage of Life's high school editors, Amanda, a junior at the Keystone National High School, summed up what many of the teens expressed, "Facing the unknown is a scary thing, and many teens don't have much experience outside of high school, their peer-to-peer social life, and bucket-loads of extracurriculars. When the future is suddenly thrown at us, we're lifted completely out of our environment, and therefore out of our mental comfort zone."
In fact, it was an essay about this stress category that propelled writing contest winner, Lily Nguyen, to stand out from the group of eleven finalists. Her essay, "What Stresses Me Out: the Future", addressed her worries about the future and living up to parental expectations,
"(My mother) and my father had escaped Vietnam during the war, hoping for a better life. So I can see why they have a 'the sky is the limit' attitude on everything I do. I'm also not saying that it's a bad thing. But on a journey to find a profession that both fills my personal needs and my parent's expectations is where I find most of my stress."
So what can students do about stress? How can they find positive coping mechanisms for it?
Humera Proctor, eLearning Instructional Designer for LearntobeHealthy.org, the online extension of the Susan P. Byrnes Health Education Center in York, PA, commented, "Writing/blogging is a great way to reduce stress for teens. It gives them a chance to describe what is overwhelming. And by reading it, they can reflect on how they are feeling and think of ways to solve their problem."
Because chronic stress can lead to long-term health issues, which are the leading cause of death in the U.S., Proctor went on to encourage teens to identify what is causing them stress so they can avoid it (if possible), prioritize their work, get enough sleep, find time to relax, be optimistic while setting realistic goals, and engage in positive coping mechanisms, like writing.
Rebecca Thiegs, M. Ed., Education Consultant for StageofLife.com and current high school Language Arts teacher at Red Lion Area Senior High School in Red Lion, PA, expanded on Proctor's comments,
"We see examples of negative coping mechanisms everyday in the stories we examine in the classroom. For instance, look at Holden Caulfield or Hamlet. Both of these literary characters deal with stress in very destructive manners. At StageofLife.com, we're working to give students a positive outlet, each and every day, to release stress through that process of writing and blogging."
StageofLife.com consolidated many of the "What Stresses You Out?" teen essays on a summary page for review at http://www.stageoflife.com/Student_Stress.aspx along with a link to an informational video about teen stress from LearntobeHealthy.org.
The current writing contest for high school students asks the question, "What are you thankful for?" National sponsor, KodakGallery.com, is providing the monthly prize and StageofLife.com is offering up SWAG and Featured Blogger status on the site to the next student essay winner.
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March 2012: POETRY - Dedicate a Poem to Someone Who MattersWriting Contest Details: In preparation for April’s National Poetry Writing Month, we are asking teens and college students to write a poem in dedication to someone who matters in their life. Whether it is a family member, friend, teacher, celebrity or kind stranger, write an original poem about what that person means to you.VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: Teen Poems
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February 2012: LOVE - What's Your Definition of Love?
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January 2012: Person to Watch in 2012?Writing Contest Details: Last month, TIME magazine named "The Protestor" their Person of the Year for 2011. That got us thinking...okay, but who is the person to watch in 2012? So, in looking back at the last 12 months and considering the future, who would you nominate as the Person to Watch for 2012, and why? Whether it's a celebrity, an innovator, a politician, a cultural icon, an up-and-coming artist, a rising star or someone more personal in your life, we want to hear, in 500 words or less, who your Person to Watch for 2012 would be. VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See who teens chose as the Person to Watch in 2012
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November & December 2011: AWARENESS - What issue or cause should receive its own "awareness" month?
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October 2011: TRUST & SAFETY - Do you trust our institutions to keep us safe?Details: As we look ahead to Halloween, there are scarier things than ghosts and goblins in the lives of today's teenagers and college students.
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VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See what teens wrote about their teachers.
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August 2011: SELF-REFLECTION - Letter to MeDetails: We want you to write a letter to yourself. Yes, you heard us...a letter to yourself. Take 15 minutes, alone, and spend some time thinking about the upcoming school year. Think about the things you want to accomplish. The things you fear. Think about where you've been and where you're going. Think about how your summer has been going. What are you looking forward to? What are you dreading about the return to school? Think about your goals. Think about if you're looking to make a big change this year...or simply survive? After all of that thinking, now write a "Letter to Me." This is a letter addressed to yourself. Tackle some of the topics we've outlined above...or get creative and come up with your own original angle for the letter. VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See what teens had to write to themselves in our "Letter Me" writing prompt
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July 2011: BULLYING - Have you ever been bullied, teased, or picked on? If so, about what?
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June 2011: PARENTS - What is one thing you don't know about your Mother or Father?
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May 2011: OBSTACLES - What was the most difficult thing you overcame this school year?
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February 2011: MARRIAGE - What is the value of marriage?Teen Trends: How do teens feel about marriage? This contest came out in February 2011. The month of love. Valentine's Day sits right in the middle of this month and helps (or in some cases forces) all of us to pay homage to the idea of romance...love. We got little controversial this month and asked teens to share their point of view on marriage. VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See how teens feel about marriage...
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January 2011: MAKE A DIFFERENCE - What organization, company, non-profit or 'cause' will help make the world a better place?Teen Trends: How do teens want to better the world? Our mission on StageofLife.com is to help change the world, one story at a time. What a better way to do that than to ask teens and college students about worthwhile causes we should all know about. This was an opportunity for teens to shed light and share with us their favorite non-profit, company, organization or 'cause' that could help make the world a better place. VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See how teens feel about making the world a better place...
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November 2010: GIVING THANKS - What are you most thankful for?Teen Trends: What are teens grateful for? This writing contest rolled out in November 2010. We all get busy during the day-to-day routine of our lives, but it's important to stop once in while and reflect on what matters most, and to give thanks for that. Keeping that in mind, we wanted to hear from teens about who or what, in their lives right now, should receive public acknowledgment of their thanks. VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See for who and what teens are thankful... |
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October 2010: TEEN STRESS - What stresses you out, and how do you cope with that stress?Teen Trends: How do students deal with stress? From classes to homework to jobs to extra curricular activities to social outings, teens and college students are maintaining hectic schedules. Add on top of that any current relationship hardships, social issues, e.g. bullying, illnesses or other personal problems and it's not surprising that many young people feel...stressed. . |
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September 2010: HEROES - Who is your hero?Teen Trends: Who would a teenager name as their hero? We wanted to talk about heroes, both big and small, with high school and college students. We asked teens to name their hero, it could be a family member, someone famous, or an everyday person in their lives who is quietly making a difference, and then write a 500 word essay about that hero. You'll love these responses. VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See who teens nominated as their heroes... |
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August 2010: EDUCATION - What suggestion(s) do you have to make a positive change at your school or with the educational system as a whole?Teen Trends: How would teens improve education? We wanted to know how students were perceiving their educations, educational environments at their high schools, colleges and universities and the overall trends in education. We asked the teens for ideas on how to improve the educational environment. VIEW SUMMARY REPORT: See how teens would improve the educational system... |
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July 2010: FOOD - Do we have an obligation to take better care of ourselves by making changes in the way we eat and/or buy and consume food?Teen Trends: How do teens feel about food, obesity and nutrition? TV shows like NBC's Biggest Loser are big hits and books like Michael Pollan's Food Rules are flying off the shelves. Even film documentaries like Food, Inc. and Super Size Me have pushed into the mainstream consciousness. It goes without saying a tipping point is occurring in our society's awareness in regards to people's relationship with food. Obesity in America is reaching an epidemic...but are people ready or really willing to change? Is our addiction to unhealthy food too hard to break? See how teens feel about food, obesity and nutrition...[this summary report is being pulled from the essay archive for posting here soon] |
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June 2010: COLLEGE - What is the most difficult thing (for you) about college?Teen Trends: How do teens feel about college? We want to know what's making the college process or college itself difficult and why. Financial aid? Application process? Juggling classes and work? What is making college difficult? This contest was held in partnership with "Take America to College" initiative. See how teens feel about college...[this summary report is being pulled from the essay archive for posting here soon] |
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May 2010: ENVIRONMENT - What is one behavior you can either change or incorporate into your daily life that will reduce our negative impact on the environment?Teen Trends: How do teens feel about the environment? The negative environmental impact and tragedy of lives lost from the BP off-shore oil rig disaster was obvious. What we wanted from our high school and college students entering this month's writing contest was not their outrage about how this could have happened, but rather, share one solution (big or small) that can help combat man's ever-reaching environmental impact. See how teens feel about helping the environment...[this summary report is being pulled from the essay archive for posting here soon] |