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Posted by: MichaelNYC on 7/20/2010 Finding happiness...Finding love...finding "the one"...this great quest is drummed into our collective heads from the time we are very young. The quest alone can kill you - or at least make you reevaluate your world on an almost daily basis. But, for purposes of today's diatribe, let's jump to the point where you've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Congratulations! Mazel Tov! Feliz...well, my Spanish is a bit rusty.
So now you're married -...
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Posted by: kjb2052 on 4/27/2010 In honor of Mother’s Day approaching, I thought I’d share a quick story about something that happened to me recently.
A few weekends ago, my sister, her husband, and her new baby were in town from Texas, and came to my house to visit. My mom also came by, so there was a nice little group of us sitting around in my living room. Three generations of girls, all in the same room – it was pretty cool.
So although I am somewhat terrified of babies, and holding babies (for fear o...
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Posted by: bigdreamer1 on 4/28/2010 Last year on my B day I was still adjusting to Mj being out of the country and was feeling pretty angry about that. I figured my B day was going to suck anyways so I agreed to go to a 8 hour Microsoft Access Workshop even though it fell on the 1st. BIG mistake. It turns out it was not exactly the beginner class that it claimed to be and I sat there all day halfway falling asleep feeling stupid, confused, and worried that my job was going to be mad at me for wasting their money because I did not...
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Posted by: kjb2052 on 3/11/2010 I've been thinking lately…
You know how sometimes someone seems like a really great friend, and other times that same person does not seem like a really great friend? Like one minute you're having a really good time with them. And then the next minute, you're like 'this person is totally flaking on me'. Or, one minute you feel like you're really connecting, and the next you feel like they are just waiting for their turn to talk. And you're like 'why haven't they asked me how I'm doing?' (even...
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Posted by: bigdreamer1 on 2/14/2010 I am not one of those people that believes that Valentine's Day is this made up commercial holiday that is forced upon us just to make money. Ok well, it kind of is but forced is a strong word. We do and spend what we want ultimately and if I believed that about Valentines day I would have to believe the same about a lot of other mostly meaningless holidays that we celebrate just for fun. Yeah, it's a money maker but I don't see anything wrong with having another day to show appreciation to you...
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Posted by: bigdreamer1 on 1/6/2010 6 Since Mj has been home he's been cooking up quite a storm in the kitchen. Everything he makes tastes good and I am pretty much the assistant. I did make beef stew in the crock pot alone but not really because he told me everything I was supposed to do. I want to get into the kitchen and make dinner for him on my own so that's exactly what I did last night. I can't come up with meals off the top of my head like Mj. I don't know what Bay Leaves are or how to season food and put it together but th...
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Posted by: bugcandy on 12/31/2009 As the Founder of StageofLife.com, I wanted to wish our married couple readers a Happy New Year in 2010.
To help provide some ideas on new opportunities for your married life this New Year, check out our...
"Goal Setting Worksheet." Print it here.
Feel free to complete this worksheet with your spouse. You'll be surprised at the answers you'll reve...
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Posted by: Collette on 11/22/2009 I'm engaged but wanted to hear from people already married on how they divide up time between the two families for the holiday season. Which side do you spend the holidays with and why? Are there certain traditions more important to your side or your spouse's?
I'm a little worried about telling my parents they won't see us on Thanksgiving but they get us for Christmas (or visa versa).
I'd love to hear how others approach this potentially sticky issue.
NOTE...
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Posted by: bigdreamer1 on 12/3/2009 In every relationship there is usually a spender and a saver. It seems like some force of nature that draws opposites in this category to one another. Each person has their designated role and the silent and sometimes not so silent tug of war ensues as the pair makes their way through a life together where the subject of money is simply impossible to ignore. Just one more thing to keep things interesting and although it can be annoying at times I do think it can be a good thing. Guess which one...
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Posted by: bigdreamer1 on 10/26/2009 I am loosing steam. Like a flower that wilts without sunshine the luster from his visit has worn off and I am becoming droopy and lifeless. When I first found out he’d be leaving for so long just five months into our relationship I was devastated but determined to be strong and just deal with it. His after Christmas departure left me with an ache in my chest and gloomy thoughts of the long months stretched out ahead without him. I wallowed for a bit, but not wanting to be sad and make this sepa...
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Posted by: christinalouise on 4/26/2009 Being a woman, I get The Mommy Question a lot more often than my husband; Do I have any children? Or the other person, assuming that I already have children, asks instead, “How many children do I have? How old are my children? Which school do my children attend? And is the random child running around the funeral home my son?”
Soon after college, I came up with what I thought was a pretty good answer: I’d laugh a little and say, “Oh. No. I’m too young to have children.”
The...
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Posted by: kjb2052 on 10/12/2009 "PEGGY: No, I don't think you're like, "I'm charming and mysterious in a way that even I don't understand and something about me is crying out for protection from a big man like you". Very hard to compete with. Especially to us married women who have lost our mystery.
MAGGIE: ... you haven't lost your mystery! You're very mysterious!
PEGGY: No. I'm weird. Weird and mysterious are two different things.
MAGGIE: But I'm weird.
PEGGY: No. You're quirky. Q...
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Posted by: bigdreamer1 on 8/25/2009 A couple weeks ago I was at a girls get together and my friend brought her one month old baby. It is not often that I am around a newborn so at first I was reluctant to hold her but as the night went on I found that I could not resist. She is absolutely precious. She was wearing tiny silver shoes and a bright pink matching leggings and top outfit. Such soft sweet smelling baby skin and baby fine curly hair atop her little head. Tiny hands, tiny feet. Tiny mouth with yeah, you guessed it-tiny li...
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Posted by: kjb2052 on 8/20/2009 No, not “Back to School”. Not “Time to Have the Baby Talk”. Not tax time, or an anniversary, or even “that” time of the month (gross). But rather… it is….
Fantasy Football Time.
The bane of my marital existence. How did I know it was this time? When my husband was GLUED to the computer the other night, and I heard that all-too-familiar “do-do-do, do-do-do” which can only mean one thing: it’s his turn on an online mock draft. Yes. I know that sound. I LOATH that sound. Beca...
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Posted by: vcesari on 7/30/2009 You just got married? Congratulations! You’ve had the wedding of your dreams, went on the most amazing and romantic honeymoon, and now you’ve returned to the real world. The real world full of bills, mortgage payments, gas prices and your (hopefully) full-time job (you never know now-a-days). The sweet bells of wedding music and the white doves begin to slowly fade as you arrange yourselves, devise a schedule and settle into life together. Oh but wait, you’ve gotten married and are starting lif...
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Posted by: kjb2052 on 7/3/2009 2 I bet you didn’t think it was possible to be “married without kids” and still get “Happy Mothers’ Day” or “Happy Fathers’ Day” wishes, did you? Well, I’m here to tell you it is a definite possibility – or at least it is when you have a granddog. That’s right, a granddog.
My baby-starved mother cannot WAIT for my husband and me to “give her” a baby. That’s what she calls it – I kid you not. She can’t wait to spoil it rotten, and smother it with unconditional grandma love. She’s alread...
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Posted by: JIMRICK on 6/1/2009 1 My wife and I don’t have kids. And for the past few years, we’ve been too young to have them (surfing through our early twenties unquestioned and damn convenient).
But the hammer has fallen: we are now too old to be too young to have children. We get the questions now. We have to explain now how it’s not that we’re not “ready.”
In fact, we’re way too “ready.”
My wife and I are both first-born children with three siblings each. We each have two siblings more t...
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Posted by: christinalouise on 5/23/2009 When you get a different kind of intimacy than what you expected.
I had it all planned out.
I had the day off on Friday and Jim was working. When Jim got home, I was going to take him to the gym for a game of racquetball (we played all the time in college), make a dinner of Greek shrimp (he's been cooking dinner a lot lately and I wanted to treat him), and then... ...
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Posted by: Karl on 1/4/2009 4 My wife and I made New Year goals for the first time - as a couple.
And it was an interesting experience. Let me give you some quick background. We've been been married for three years and have been dating for 2 years before that. That's five years we've been together - total.
Well, before this weekend, we used to make individual New Year's resolutions and then share them with each other. She would make her list and I would make mine. We'd then share the lists over ...
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