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My Thoughts on Newton: Stop playing the blame game

Joined: 1/24/2013
Posts: 6
In regards to the recent Sandy Hook tragedy, my views on guns laws/rights have not changed. We have been witnesses to violence time and time again. When a person chooses to go on a murderous rampage, we are all affected, whether it is indirectly or directly. We don’t have to lose someone to such a hideous crime to be able to understand what these families are going through. Nonetheless I believe in the United States Constitution, therefore I don’t believe a persons right to legally bear arms should be taken away from them. We will always have people who choose not to abide by the laws. Ratifying or abolishing the 2nd amendment is not going to fix the real problem. It isn’t going to resolve the issues being ignored that are the true reason history continues to repeat itself.

I recently came across a National Campaign to Stop Violence Survey. It listed the “top ten causes of violence in the order that children cited them”. The number one reason listed was “the media”. Did they choose the media because they honestly feel violence on television, music and video games turn a switch in people to become violent. Or did they blame the media because its what adults and organizations point the finger towards. Why did intolerance and ignorance get the last spot on the list? Arent most of the people who choose to go on a murderous rampages victims of bullying? Whether at school,work, home or a combination of all three. Rejected by society for whatever reason and being subject to years of cruelty at the hands of others. This kind of abuse is corrosive to an individual and can diminish a persons state of mental health. Causing them to lash out in ways that they wouldn’t otherwise choose when they are in good health.

Are people today desensitized to violence? Yes. Does that mean everyones first solution is to pick up a gun and kill. No. Does music evoke emotion? Yes. Does that mean violent music will cause me to lash out? No.We need to stop blaming the media for violent tragedies. Caused by people who are suffering from inner turmoil, people who are usually products of corrosive environments. Stop blaming gun laws. Lets talk about intolerance and ingnorance,lets talk about abuse. Lets talk about the inner demons. Lets talk about the skeletons that people keep hidden in closets and secrets being buried. The deafening silence of these issues are the real problem that everyone is consciously overlooking. Most of the time people turn the other cheek or choose denial rather than act on suspicions. Even when those suspicions are really ugly truths being revealed and displayed in plain sight. Because it is uncomfortable…because it is none of our business. Until it is too late and innocent blood is shed, only then does everyone decided to speak up and take action.
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Comment by Suzanne

Joined: 1/2/2012
Posts: 118
I am not as surprised as you to see that "media" topped the list of the top ten causes of violence, but I was disappointed that tolerance was at the bottom.

It seems that students, and people in general don't want to get involved in something they don't perceive to be their business. I am sure there are a lot of folks who look back now and wish they had intervened with the Sandy Hook shooter; his parents, teachers, church and social workers, even neighbors might have provided the support he needed to feel significant in the world. But, none of us feel that other people's problems are our responsibility. We have stopped "loving our neighbor."

You made the point clearly that this is a multi-dimensional issue that won't be solved with a single knee jerk reaction or trampling Constitutional rights. I don't have any more answers than you do regarding solutions, but I do know that teaching tolerance is a good place to start.

Posted: Wednesday, January 30, 2013 1:26:53 PM
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Comment by Kryxny

Joined: 1/24/2013
Posts: 6
I appreciate you taking the time to read my post and share your thoughts Suzanne. I agree with the points you made in your response. I also feel that life skills,such as stress management techniques and how to effectively communicate should be introduced earlier.Most people learn these very valuable tools later in life,when entering the work force if their field offers brief courses on them. I dont believe a conscious effort to exercise these techniques in other aspects of our lives is utilized by most people.
Posted: Wednesday, February 6, 2013 4:13:22 AM
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