“Sticks and stones can break my bones but words….? Words can do all sorts of things... Whether or not we believe the words, they do their work.” ~H.H


“If I ever get so big that I take up 2 seats on mass transit, or have to sit sideways on the single seats….tell my fat greedy ass to stop eating…You so fat you only joined facebook because you heard they put cookies on your computer:...and You so fat you walked into the Gap and filled it”

There are fat jokes that stretch to the ends of the universe and back. There are ridiculous tenets about “fat” people that some accept as personal truths. Such as “you don’t have to layer up in the winter time, your blubber will keep you warm…if you’re fat that means you’re lazy…you don’t like exercise…you just like to sit at home and shovel junk down your throat all day…you don’t like to work….its okay to taunt a person about being overweight because if they don’t like it they will just lose it.” Etc

People aren’t excessively overweight because they consciously choose to do so. They don’t get up and say you know what Im going to make a load of bad choices because I really want to be 400, 700, 1000 pounds one day. So next time you find yourself bullying someone about their weight, or idly watch as someone else does so, ask yourself: What is lacking in my life that is causing me to victimize this person? If you are also sabotaging yourself and adding to the negativity. Take a minute to put yourself in check, silence your own unforgiving spirit; and stop being your own worst critic. It didn’t take five minutes or a week to gain whatever excess weight you may be carrying around. So a fad diet or unhealthy weight loss methods will not successfully keep the weight off.

[“You are bound to have lapses on the road to health and wellness, but it is critical that you learn how to handle small failures positively so that you can minimize long-term destructive effects. One setback is one setback...it is not the end of the world, nor is it the end of your journey toward a better you. ~ J.M ]



Ever feel “fat”? Do you really need to lose 3 lbs? 10 lbs? 20 lbs? more? Why? because you want to be “skinny”? or because you want to be fit? Did someone tell you that you had to lose weight? Are you afraid of your scale? Do you have negative thoughts about yourself after you get weighed? Do you weigh yourself? How often? Why or why not? Are you overweight? Have you ever taunted anyone about their weight? Why? Why did/does a persons “excess” weight bother you so much? Have you ever been bullied about your weight? How did it make you feel? Did you get over it? Are you an emotional eater? Do you find comfort in food? Are you addicted to food? Do you struggle with your weight? How so? Was your New Years resolution to “drop a few pounds”? How is that going? Did you start? Did you quit? Why? Have you ever been on a fad diet? Atkins? South beach? Lemonade diet? Cabbage soup diet? Apple cider vinegar diet? Fasted to lose weight? Starved yourself? Are you a binge eater? Have you ever purged? Have you ever been ashamed of others seeing you eat? Why? Are you a closet eater? If you eat Popeyes today…does that mean you cant eat for four days now? Why? Have you ever restricted your diet and then ended up binging on the foods/snacks you denied yourself? Have you ever been afflicted by an eating disorder? Ever walk in a room and feel really big? Do you allow negative perceptions of others influence how you feel about yourself? Are you beautiful? On the inside? On the outside? What about when you look in the mirror? What about when others are around? How do you think people perceive your physical appearance? Why is it important? Or why is it not important? Do you feel a persons weight dictates how aesthetically beautiful they are? Why or Why not?