wow this is a tough situation. Your grandfather might be rushing this because he doesn't want to deal with the pain of loosing his significant other for the past 40 years. Its hard to deal with the loss but it seems like he is moving pretty fast with the marriage after 6 months. Try to talk to him calmly about their relationship and find out why he wants to marry so soon. It is good to talk things out but its really hard to keep your cool sometimes. I would let him know that getting rid of your grandmothers things really hurts, and instead of throwing them away give them to you or keep them somewhere else instead of getting rid of them completely. As for the pictures and everything that doesn't seem right of her to do that. Your grandmother was a big influence in your life and a huge part of your grandfathers life. Your grandfather obviously loves your grandmother still so the pictures should be cherished and remembered. This other woman shouldn't be jealous of him, after all you said she raised you so she should respect your wishes and the house she is living in.

I hope this helps you some, one thing I've learned in confronting people is to keep calm. Don't raise your voice because once that happens its all down hill. So if nothing else works, just remember that :)

This is a really tough situation to deal with, and I completely understand what you are feeling because the same situation has happened with me.

My grandmother died when I was 8 years old in Feb, and my grandfather's wedding to another woman was that same year in November. 9 months after the death of his life-long partner and wife. She has since fazed out a lot of family get togethers and kept my grandfather from things with our family and has used him. In their house, there is one photo of my family, and about 20 of her family and her biological grandkids.

The hardest part for me to accept was that he was happy. Men (unlike women) have a really tough time dealing with being alone, especially after losing someone that they've had for so long (In your case, 40 years.) Men can't cope like a lot of women can, which is why they chose to remarry, and fast. Men that age are also pretty helpless when it comes to things like cooking and cleaning because that has always been the stereotypical woman's job, and in their time the women really only did those things.

I think you should make a harder effort to stay in your grandfathers life no matter what the woman he married is like. You may like or dislike her, but she isn't the one you're worrying about, it's him. If there are things in your old house that you want to keep, you should ask. At his age they might just be possessions and nothing special, but to you they are intense memories that you don't want to get rid of. No matter the other woman, he will always be your grandfather and you can't let what's happened or the woman he's married take that away from you. You should ask him to go out to lunch with you, just grandpa and granddaughter. We've started a tradition in my family that one of us goes out to lunch with my grandpa every Sunday. He knows that when I am with him, it's just us.

Once my grandpa's wife said to me, "Take care of my husband." to which I replied, "He's been my grandpa for longer than your husband." Truth be told, he has been. And while the passing of my grandma still weighs on me today and has changed my relationship with my grandfather, it's not always a bad thing, just a change.