Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 2:45:56 PM
Wouldn't it be nice to live in a world where we as humans didn't judge each other? A world where we're treated equally? I believe that we all go through life with a narrow perspective. We are often too afraid, or just too ignorant to look around us and see what really goes on. The movie "Prayers for Bobby" comes to mind when thinking of narrow perspectives. I believe that "Prayers for Bobby" was the most influential in my life.
Prayers for Bobby is a real life story based on the life of Bobby Griffith, a young gay man who committed suicide due to his mother's homophobia. I believe this movie speaks for all the gay teens that desperately need that acceptance from their parents. This movie definitely speaks for me. Bobby's mother, Mary, believed that God could cure Bobby of homosexuality. She believed that people choose to be gay or lesbian; that they can fix it by reciting the bible and "praying the gay away". Bobby believed that this would cure him. I, myself, can relate to Bobby. I believed that praying to God, becoming closer to him, would cure me of what my society described as disgusting. I soon learned that no matter what I do in life, people will judge. I learned that God accepted me as I am.
Too many teens end up like Bobby. They hide who they are just to please others around them. It becomes so painful trying to hide who they are, that they give up hope and life. When Bobby committed suicide, Mary is devastated. She ultimately searches for the reason that Bobby killed himself. I developed hate for Mary. That hate slowly faded as the movie progressed. Mary began to open her mind and question everything she based her life on. She finds a church that accepted gays for who they are (People) and not deviants. Mary says, "I know now why God didn't heal Bobby. He didn't heal him because there was nothing wrong with him." I cried my heart out. If only parents understood this sooner. Maybe, just maybe, a lot of teens that are gay would still be alive.
What I thought was most inspirational about this movie is that she learned to accept Bobby for who he was, and learned to love him the way God made him. I believe that Mary is an inspiration to all the parents out there who’s child maybe gay. I really hope she inspires my parents to accept not just part of me, but all of me. "To all the Bobbys and Janes out there, I say these words to you as I would my own precious children. Please don't give up hope on life, or yourselves. You're very special to me, and I'm working very hard to make this life a better and safer place for you to live in. Promise me you'll keep trying. Bobby gave up on love, I hope you won't. You're always in my thoughts."