Posted: Saturday, February 25, 2012 12:50:38 AM
Love is a mystery; there is no telling what will happen. We cannot give love a specific definition because it’s different for everyone, we can only give it characteristics. Like Russian roulette you don’t know if you will get lucky or if it will bring you the greatest pain of your lifetime. Most of the time you are lucky and see that love is patient, kind, embracing, eternal, promising and surreal in the sense that you feel when someone truly loves you. Then we find that love is two faced. Love is brutal, deceiving, fake, temporary, controlling and possibly a burden. When you love someone, you will do anything for them and that could cause you harm but it matters not, so long as the one you love is satisfied.
I believe there is one person that you know you will spend the rest of your life with, you just have to believe that and allow fate to find you both and bring you together. My parents unfortunately did not have this situation, their love was a bright flame that after ten years dimmed slowly and in the end it was only a spark. That spark keeping them together was their children but one can only suffer so much and they separated. So yes, love takes on many forms and is constantly changing causing people to become inseparable or unbearable but not even they know the course their love will take.
Love leads to sex, it always does and this action may ruin a relationship. When you love someone, you feel comfortable with them and can do whatever you want with them no matter how boring and still have a great time simply because you are with them. Sex isn’t proving you love someone, that’s the last thing you should think it is. Meaningful actions and words are proving to someone that you love them and that should be on a deeper more emotional level than anything physical or sexual. And if this love is not real, then one person will bail once they get what they want and we learn that from movies and television shows.
My definition of love is unpredictable. I cannot think of a better way of describing it other than Russian roulette. We are all hoping for that five out of six chance that will bring relief. This relief is finding someone and knowing you wont be alone because you have one person to hold you tight and keep you happy. We want to avoid the abusive and controlling love where we live in fear of the one we love, the point where love turns on us. So like anything, hope for the best but expect the worst because with love, there is nothing to guide you and tell you how to avoid the worst from happening.