Posted: Thursday, March 1, 2012 4:59:22 AM
Sometimes it confuses me to hear about people in the throes of love, their lives resigned to solely the company of their loved one. I realize that is a strange reaction. Confusion? What could be confusing about love, a feeling that is by definition pure and uncomplicated?
To me, love of the romantic kind seems like a very difficult thing. How can one be so deeply connected to another? Or, rather, how can one know another well enough to establish this deep connection?
After much thinking, I finally figured it out. Love is merely a perception. In other words, those who truly believe they are in love…fundamentally are.
When someone thinks they love another romantically, they care for the person intensely, desires clouding other everyday thoughts. Most prominent is the hope that this person will love them back. Isn’t this deep caring “love” itself?
Now consider the infatuation exhibited by young girls who hound their objects of affection like dogs sniffing out a trail of meat. It may seem like this harmless, ignorant affection cannot be love. However, these girls are fully devoted. Thoughts of the loved one consume their mind constantly, and they truly care for their “loved” one. Though it may seem trivial, “puppy love” is indeed love, simply because the subjects believe they are in love.
I suppose I don’t know anything about love, seeing as I’ve never been in love (at least not to my knowledge). Maybe my ideas are completely naïve and completely misrepresent what “true love” truly is. In any case, there’s one thing I’m certain of. Definitions of love constantly change as life goes on. And for now, I’m under the impression that:
If you believe you are in love you are.