Posted: Wednesday, February 29, 2012 10:15:58 PM
February 22, 2012
My definition of love: It’s Not Just a Feeling
What is love? Since the dawn of time this question has continued to either haunt, or thrill the hearer. Excite or dismay the listener. Provide boundless joy, or long-lasting grief.
When most people hear this awe-inspiring four letter word, several pictures come to mind. Be it a happy couple, a loving father and daughter, or perhaps a heart broken by what they thought could be “love”. Some would label love as a feeling; however, I consider it a delicate balance of emotion and decision.
Most would agree that there are two types of love: Affectionate and romantic love. For those fortunate humans with a heart, they have most likely felt both during their lifetime. However, upon closer examination, I have concluded that each type of true love possesses characteristics common to the other. Whatever the motives, true love is always, selfless and unconditional. Anyone who doubts this has clearly never known true love. Think about the person dearest to you. Would you take a bullet for them? Would you continue to love them despite their imperfections? Here is a truth that may enlighten those who answered “yes” to both: feelings do not make you suddenly behave with respect. Neither does emotion alone cause you to sacrifice that which you before considered life-essential. Resolution invents noble decisions. True, love does change a person and it may cause them to behave differently during the infancy of infatuation. However mature love does not and cannot rely on ardor to make a person better. Nor can passion make somebody behave the way they should toward their special someone.
What about romantic love? It’s an extraordinary feeling felt usually only toward one person at a time. Though the admirer may not understand why, amidst all the other people standing in the room, their heart gives a queer little beat when that person appears.
This is where the feeling comes in.
To be honest, I have no seemingly intelligent explanation for what sparks the feeling of romantic sentiment. Yet, I do believe in one thing: I believe that for every person there is someone meant for them. While I find the find the phrase “soul mates” as slightly extreme, what others might call “your one true love,” paints a more accurate picture. How could we ever find the one destined for our self if feelings were non-existent? When considering that particular person who makes your heart race and brings a smile to your face, the way you love them remains essentially the same as the way you love anyone else. The only firm difference is that you feel an attraction for them, and desire to express it in more way than one. “Love is a fabric which never fades, no matter how often it is washed in the water of adversity and grief.” – Source Unknown