Posted: Wednesday, February 29, 2012 5:38:19 PM
“If you have it [love], you don’t need to have anything else. If you don’t have it, it doesn’t matter much what else you have.” – James M. Barrie
My definition of love is that warm feeling you get whenever you are around that certain ‘someone’. To me, love is the feeling that you get whenever you see that person you love; you get those wonderful butterflies, a huge smile spreads across your face and your heart beats faster than it does on a typical day. My personal feeling on love is that it is the most wonderful experience in the world but it can also be the most heartbreaking feeling. You can be so happy when you’re in love but that one little bad experience in the relationship that could send daggers to your heart; you become more afraid of getting hurt while you are in love. Once you get hurt by the one you love, it’s very difficult to forget that and move past, but the ones who are deeply in love with the person who may have hurt you, you tend to forgive and move on with them. I know when I am in love just by looking at the one I am in love with. I don’t ever want to be without him, I don’t want to experience the things in life without him by my side. When I see him, my heart skips beats and my face lights up with a giant cheesy smile. The definition of love, according to dictionary.com is; a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. I agree completely with this definition. My thesis for this essay is to give my explanation and thought on love.
I believe the media has both a positive and negative view on teen love. Older ‘experienced’ people believe that high school relationships won’t last. Media attention to all those superstar teenagers that get into relationships that unfortunately end, makes some kids wonder if they can even last in an actual relationship. I remember thinking, if they can’t last in a relationship, can I? My experience with family love felt lost when my parents divorced. I was only six years old at the time and I didn’t understand why my parents didn’t love each other anymore. I have been around divorce and break-ups all my life, so it made me wonder if my life was going to end up the same. With my mom getting new boyfriends, and my dad remarrying, it gave me a glimmer of hope that relationships can last. There are quite a few words that you can use in your experience of love, such as; passion, puppy-love, lust, crushes, platonic love, and family love. These all fit my definition of love because all relationships start off with that small crush on the person, or the lust to be around that person. Passion is needed in a love relationship because it shows how important it is to you.
The effects of love are; a pounding out-of-control heart rate, sweaty palms, nervousness, passion, butterflies, giant smiles, and a lot of laughs. There could also be broken hearts, many tears shed, make-ups and break-ups. It all depends on the type of love that you experience. Love changes my lifestyle by me not wanting to do all the activities that I use to do. All I want to do is be around that special guy that I love. He occupies my mind all day so anything I may have ‘learned’ that day, flies out the window. I do many things for him because I love him; such as going out of my way to pick something up for him at the gas station, or cleaning up his room with him. Love changes me for the better because it gives me a positive outlook on life. Love definitely makes me a happier person.
“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. IT was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” Love can come in different forms for everyone. This is how I feel about love.